The years you spend in college will provide many defining moments. Young men and women alike go to college not only for an education, but also to make new friends, have new experiences, discover who they are as adults, and learn responsibility. The first step toward losing your virginity is to stop trying to lose it. Simply be you.

Reassess
College is the ideal time to reassess yourself. Drop bad habits and childish ways and learn to live as the person you want to be. Although you should definitely address your shortcomings and try to improve them, don’t be too hard on yourself. Look at your good traits and realize how they will help you throughout life. Also look at your weaknesses and figure out how to get rid of them or make progress toward improvement. Whatever you do, don’t try to be someone you aren’t. Foolishly pursuing perfection or being a fake will waste your time, make you miserable, and lose you potential friends (and dates).

It is also important that you view your virginity neutrally. Many people, especially young men, place entirely too much stigma on being virgins and too much pressure upon themselves to lose it. Having these negative outlooks on being a virgin can cause intense nervousness when sex finally occurs and can also cause a young man or woman to become desperate enough to have intercourse with someone with whom they would otherwise have no interest in. Although losing your virginity can be an extremely rewarding, fulfilling experience when it happens in the right way with the right person, it is essentially just another life experience.

Opportunities
Once you have the mental aspects of being a virgin under control, it is time to make opportunities for yourself. Make as many new friends as possible and establish social networks. Go on dates with people who interest you and see what develops. When you meet someone that you truly have an interest in having sex with, it will happen. And it will NOT matter that you were a virgin. It is important that you simply live your life as the person you want to be and never, ever have sex with someone just because you are tired of being a virgin. Your first time should be a good experience to you, not a move of desperation. When you are ready to take the big step, make sure you are not under the influence of drugs or alcohol and that your potential partner is someone you truly have an interest in. By following these steps, you can take the pressure out of losing your virginity and make it a truly memorable experience. These tips can help you worry less about your social life, and more about becoming a forensic psychologist.